“I have never been aware before how many faces there are.There are quantities of human beings, but there are many more faces, for each person has several.”
Rainer Maria Rilke
How to discover if you have being soffering from verbal abuse?
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Emotional abuse is often minimized, yet it can leave deep and lasting scars.
“Verbal abuse includes withholding, bullying, defaming, defining, trivializing, harassing, interrogating, accusing, blaming, blocking, insulting, countering, diverting, lying, berating, taunting, putting down, discounting, threatening, name-calling, yelling and raging.”
These are some examples of behavior exhibited by the abuser :
- Actions of Signs of verbal abuse exhibited by the abuser are:gnoring, ridiculing, disrespecting, and criticizing others consistently.
- A manipulation of words.
- Purposeful humiliation of others.
- Accusing others falsely for the purpose of manipulating a person’s decision making.
- Manipulating people to submit to undesirable behavior.
- Making others feel unwanted and unloved.
- Threatening to leave the family destitute.
- Placing the blame and cause of the abuse onto others.
- Isolating a person from some type of support system, consisting of friends or family.
- Threatening of taking the children away from the mother
- Threatening to hurt the victim physically or emotionally
- Threatening to take way financial resources or keeping you unable to work
Consider the things people value in relationships and the things they want in a healthy and strong relationship. These could be respect, understanding, forgiveness, acceptance, love, affection, responsibility, hope, faith, trustworthiness with the ability to connect deeply with someone, and the freedom to be oneself within healthy boundaries. When we think about what constitutes a healthy relationship, it becomes easier to identify when we are in an unhealthy relationship.
LAW Against Verbal abuse
Section 294 in The Indian Penal Code, 1860 [I.P.C.]
Recognizing abuse is the first step to getting help
Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need.
Actions the victim or target can take include:
- Find a trusted friend, a support group, or a counselor to discuss the situation. A network of supportive relationships can strengthen and uplift.
- Learn about yourself and healthy relationships. It helps to make better choices.
- Believe and remember that we are all valuable and deserve to be in relationships that enhance our worth, bring out the best in us, and where we feel safe.