Reach: Always push yourself to the edge of your ability.

Stare: Look at those better than you and emulate them.

Be Unconfortable

We learn when we’re in our discomfort zone. When you’re struggling, that’s when you’re getting smarter. The more time you spend there, the faster you learn. It’s better to spend a very, very high quality ten minutes, or even ten seconds, than it is to spend a mediocre hour. You want to practice where you are on the edge of your ability, reaching over and over again, making mistakes, failing, realizing those mistakes and reaching again.

The closer your practice is to the real thing, the faster you learn.

You don’t want to be succeeding 40 percent of the time. That’s flailing around. You don’t want to be succeeding 95 percent of the time. That’s too easy. You want to constantly be toggling, adjusting the environment so that you’re succeeding 60 to 80 percent of the time.

Commit To The Long Term

The question that ended up being the most predictive of skill was “How long are you going to be doing this?” Commitment was the difference maker. The people who combined commitment with a little bit of practice, their skills went off the charts.

Find A Role Model

Watching the best people work is one of the most powerful things you can do.

hen we stare at someone we want to become and we have a really clear idea of where we want to be, it unlocks a tremendous amount of energy. We’re social creatures, and when we get the idea that we want to join some enchanted circle up above us, that is what really lights up motivation. “Look, they did it. I can do it.” It sounds very basic, but spending time staring at the best can be one of the most powerful things you do.

Naps Are Steroids For Your Brain

Napping is a high performance activity. If you looked into the habits of highly successful people you would see a lot of naps, a lot of recovery. It’s sort of our brains’ janitorial service. It helps us clean out the stuff we don’t want. It also helps us work on ideas while we’re asleep. Top performers use sleep as a tool.

Keep a Notebook

Most people who are taking an ownership role in their talent development use this magical tool called a notebook. Keep a performance journal. If you want to get better, you need a map, and that journal is that map. You can write down what you did today, what you tried to do, where you made mistakes. It’s a place to reflect. It’s a place to capture information. It’s a place to be able to track your progress. It’s one of the most underused yet powerful tools that I could imagine anybody using.

If You Only Remember Two Words From This…

I would say, “Reach. Get out on the edge of your ability. Get into your discomfort zone and reach past that.” And I would say, “Stare. Find somebody you want to be in two years, three years, five years, and stare at that person. See what they’re doing. See exactly what they’re doing, and steal that. Steal from them.”

Just Say No

Warren Buffett once said:

The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say “no” to almost everything.

How do you SEE Yourself?

Are you like me? When I hear someone say “It’s not in the cards for me to be successful or happy” I want to SHAKE THEM and say “what are you talking about?”

This type of conditioning to me was like having the “flu without a vaccine.” In today’s world, old thinking and conditioning is equal to a computer virus. What does a virus do to our computer over time? It crashes it.

But unlike a laptop, we are not replaceable. We are unique, amazing individualized versions of ONE with a purpose. Just like nature, we are all connected.

It’s is my humble opinion that a MAJOR portion of success and happiness starts with the way we see ourselves, the way we think and the way we process life circumstances.

Our past CONDITIONING and our belief system both past and present is a MAJOR contributor to how our lives turn out.

Every time adversity entered my life, it always came with lessons, followed by growth, sometimes, non-stop years of growth. Many of the things that I have desired, using the 12 Principles Of Happiness and Success, have showed up over time, starting with belief, focused intention, action, commitment and finally, patience.

The common threads of success are:

-Never give up

-Belief in yourself no matter what others tell you

-Discover that you actually have a higher power

-Surround yourself with the right people who champion YOU!

-Help others along the way!

The 12 Principles Of Happiness and Success

1) I have developed a strong knowing that it’s up to us to create our own destiny

2) I have developed an unshakable belief in my higher self

3) I don’t let fear cloud hope, or stop action

4) I have an unshakeable belief that my higher self is constantly on call, calling forth my talent, skills, intelligence and intuition to manifest what I truly desire according to the right timetable

5) I have a firm belief that I am worthy of life’s abundance and deserve everything that life has to offer

6) I have a strong belief in my own journey and know that I’m not in a “race to success contest” with others

7) While I have made mistakes, I don’t let “the wake drive the boat.” I have learned to have short memory when it comes to mistakes. (A core teaching of Patriots coach Bill Belichick.)

8) I have developed an awareness that helping others is a faster way to actually bring abundance to ourselves

9) I don’t believe in overnight “get rich” or “get happy” stories, promotions or schemes. I do believe that the more patient we are, taking on the pace of nature, the faster we see results

10) I don’t hold grudges. I keep an open heart for compassion and forgiveness

11) Once we understand the power of our intention, the universe conspires to assist us in ways we thought were impossible. My life is living proof of this.

12) I do believe that taking action opens up the pipeline to intuition and opportunities creating momentum and finally, manifestation of our desires. After all, that’s how all of nature works: pure potential and collaboration.
By John Heroes, Mentors and Friends !